I have been tagged by the lovely mummyplum and aworkingmum to complete the following tag, started by mother.wife.me.
It's a opportunity for women to give their personal perspective and experience on modern motherhood.
The rules are as follows:
- Post the Rules
- Answer the questions in as much or as little detail as suits you
- Leave a comment on MotherWifeMe so we can keep track of the meme
- Tag three people and link them on your blog
- Let them know you tagged them
- Tweet loudly about taking part using #amothersworkmeme
Without further ado, here is my contribution:
Did you work before becoming a mum?
Yes - since leaving university, I worked for a large cancer charity and then as an English teacher.
I very much enjoy teaching, and look forward to returning to work when we're ready.
What is your current situation?
I look after our little boy full time. I hesitate to say 'Stay at Home Mum' as it can lead to negative assumptions.
I am very lucky that I have a supportive partner who feels the same way as I do about being the primary carer for our little boy. Without his support, our lives would be very different
Soon after he was born, I knew that I didn't want anyone else to take care of our son, no matter how lovely or well qualified.
I also felt that the extra money that I would earn wouldn't be worth the additional stress that would be brought into our home.
No matter how organised, slick and efficient my marking and lesson plans would be, I knew I would resent the time taken away from my son and the impact that would have on our family.
Money has been very tight over the past two years, but as I cannot believe how quickly the time has passed, nor how much our little boy has changed in that time, I am certain we made the right decision for our family.
Although I do miss being in a wordly, busy adult environment, I know that I would miss my son more. I know I can return to work, whereas I can't return to our son's childhood.
Freestyle - a chance to get across your own point of view on the subject.
Last year, I was called for Jury Service.
As our son was not in childcare (and being breastfed), I appealed to be excused. The courts advised that I'd need official proof of my status as a full time carer for my son.
However, as he's not disabled (nor elderly), I cannot be classed as a carer.
I was told by the Department of Work and Pensions that as a full time mother, 'you're not a carer.' Ouch.
I remember this when I'm changing nappies, feeding, up at 2am...
On a serious note, it worries me that full time parents have no official status under the Department of Work and Pension guidelines.
Officially, in the eyes of our government, full time parents are doing, well, nothing.